Top 10 Questions That Must Be Settled Before Marriage.

A Biblical Guide for Christian Couples Preparing to Say “I Do.”

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✍️ Introduction

Marriage is holy. It's not just a promise between two people—it’s a covenant before God. Before you exchange vows, you must exchange truth. These 10 questions are designed to help couples settle the most important matters before they enter into marriage. Each question is answered directly and Biblically—with Scripture, key word insights, and wisdom to guide your hearts toward unity.

❓1. Do We Share a Genuine Saving Faith in Jesus Christ?

Scripture:

“Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers…” – 2 Corinthians 6:14 (KJV)

Key Word: Unequally yoked (Greek: heterozygeo) – to be joined with someone who pulls in a different direction.

Explanation: Marriage is not the same as missionary dating. If Christ isn’t Lord of both hearts, He won’t be Lord of the home. Spiritual unity is the first and most vital bond.

Resources: Romans 10:9–10, 1 John 5:12, Amos 3:3

❓2. Have We Been Completely Honest About Our Pasts?

Scripture:

“He that covereth his sins shall not prosper: but whoso confesseth and forsaketh them shall have mercy.” – Proverbs 28:13

Key Word: Covereth (Hebrew: kacah) – to hide, conceal, or keep secret.

Explanation: Secrets destroy trust. Truth builds transparency. You don’t need to relive your past, but you do need to reveal what matters.

Resources: James 5:16, Ephesians 4:25, John 8:32

❓3. Are We in Agreement About Sexual Purity Until Marriage?

Scripture:

“For this is the will of God… that ye should abstain from fornication.” – 1 Thessalonians 4:3

Key Word: Fornication (Greek: porneia) – any sexual activity outside the covenant of marriage.

Explanation: Purity isn’t old-fashioned—it’s God-fashioned. Saving sex for marriage builds self-control, trust, and reverence.

Resources: Hebrews 13:4, 1 Corinthians 6:18–20, 2 Timothy 2:22

❓4. Do We Agree on the Role of Christ in Our Home?

Scripture:

“Except the Lord build the house, they labour in vain that build it…” – Psalm 127:1

Key Word: Build (Hebrew: banah) – to establish, construct, or make lasting.

Explanation: If Christ is just a weekend guest instead of the Master Builder, the home won’t stand in storms. Christ must be the cornerstone.

Resources: Joshua 24:15, Colossians 1:18, Matthew 7:24–27

❓5. Do We Understand and Accept the Biblical Roles of Husband and Wife?

Scripture:

“Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands… Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church…” – Ephesians 5:22, 25

Key Words:

• Submit (Greek: hupotasso) – to willingly align under, not to be dominated.

• Love (Greek: agapao) – sacrificial, selfless, unconditional love.

  
  

Explanation: These roles are characterized by honor and humility, not hierarchy. Proper Biblical roles reflect the love and servant-heart of Jesus.

Resources:1 Peter 3:1–7, Genesis 2:18, Titus 2:4–5

❓6. Have We Discussed Our Finances Honestly?

Scripture:

“For the love of money is the root of all evil…” – 1 Timothy 6:10

Key Word: Love of money (Greek: philarguria) – a compulsive affection or obsession with wealth.

Explanation: Money can unite or divide. Budgeting, giving, and stewardship must be discussed now—not after you’re struggling.

Resources: Proverbs 22:7, Malachi 3:10, Luke 16:11

❓7. Are We in Agreement About Children, Parenting, and Family Involvement?

Scripture:

“Train up a child in the way he should go…” – Proverbs 22:6

Key Word: Train (Hebrew: chanak) – to dedicate, discipline, and guide with purpose.

Explanation: Kids don’t raise themselves—and in-laws don’t run your house. You need unity on how you’ll raise children and where boundaries are with extended family.

Resources:Psalm 127:3–5, Deuteronomy 6:6–7, Colossians 3:21

❓8. Have We Forgiven Everyone and Let Go of Bitterness?

Scripture:

“Let all bitterness… be put away from you…” – Ephesians 4:31

Key Word: Bitterness (Greek: pikria) – a poisonous spirit of resentment.

Explanation: Unforgiveness is emotional baggage that will unpack itself in marriage. Let the past go before you step into the future.

Resources: Hebrews 12:15, Matthew 6:14–15, 2 Corinthians 2:10–11

❓9. Are We in Agreement About Where We Will Worship and Serve?

Scripture:

“Not forsaking the assembling of ourselves together…” – Hebrews 10:25

Key Word: Assembling (Greek: episunagoge) – a gathering for a Spiritual purpose.

Explanation: Where you worship will shape how you grow. If your Spiritual direction is divided now, it will become a conflict later.

Resources:Acts 2:42, Romans 12:4–8, 1 Corinthians 12:12

❓10. Have We Prayed and Received God’s Peace About This Union?

Scripture:

“And let the peace of God rule in your hearts…” – Colossians 3:15

Key Word: Rule (Greek: brabeuo) – to act as an umpire or final decision-maker.

Explanation: If you don’t have peace now, marriage won’t fix it. God’s peace is the green light to go—or the red light to wait.

Resources:Proverbs 3:5–6, Philippians 4:6–7, Isaiah 26:3

✝️ Final Encouragement

Don’t enter marriage hoping things will change later—build your foundation on the truth now. These ten questions will either confirm your covenant or reveal areas that need correction before the ceremony.

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