Sermon Title: "Love in Fullness: Eros, Phileo, and Agape."
- Terry W. Bailey
- Sep 21, 2024
- 3 min read
Opening:
*"Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God, and whoever loves has been born of God and knows God."* (1 John 4:7)
We often speak of love as one simple thing, but Scripture reveals a far more profound and richer understanding of love. God has designed love in three powerful dimensions:*eros* (romantic love), *phileo* (brotherly love), and *agape* (divine, unconditional love). Each form is a gift, meant to reflect different aspects of God's character and how we are to relate to one another.
1. **Eros: The Gift of Passionate Love:
*"For this reason, a man shall leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh."* (Genesis 2:24)
In today's world, "Eros" is often misunderstood and reduced to mere physical attraction. But God designed "eros" to be a sacred, passionate love reserved for the marriage covenant. It reflects the deep intimacy between a husband and wife—a picture of unity in body and Spirit. When "eros" is expressed within God's boundaries, it becomes a powerful reflection of His passionate pursuit of us.
But the world distorts *eros*, outside God's design. When this happens, it becomes selfish, seeking pleasure without commitment, intimacy without covenant. Yet in marriage, *eros* is transformed into a pure, holy bond that unites two people in a way that mirrors Christ's love for His Church.
**Challenge:** For married people, keep *eros* holy by loving each other passionately, but let it be shaped by sacrifice and selflessness. For those waiting, remember that the fulfillment of *eros* comes through the patient trust in God's timing and design.
2. **Phileo: The Bond of Brotherhood:
*"Love one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honor."* (Romans 12:10)
*Phileo* speaks to the brotherly love, affection, and camaraderie we are to share as believers. It's the kind of love we see between Jesus and Peter when Jesus asks, "Do you love me?" Peter replies, "Yes, Lord, you know I *phileo* you." It is a genuine, heartfelt connection, a bond that fosters community, trust, and support within the body of Christ.
But *phileo* alone is not enough. Peter's love for Jesus was real, but it was not yet the unconditional love that Jesus called him to. *Phileo* invites us into fellowship and connection, but it must grow into something more.
**Challenge:** Love your brothers and sisters in Christ genuinely. Go beyond surface-level connections and pursue deep, meaningful relationships that reflect our unity in Christ.
3. **Agape: The Highest, Unconditional Lovve:
*"This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins."* (1 John 4:10)
*Agape* is the highest form of love—divine, selfless, and unconditional. This love took Jesus to the cross, not because we deserved it but because God's nature is to love without condition. When Jesus asks Peter, "Do you love (agape) me?" He calls Peter to a more profound commitment, a love that mirrors the sacrificial nature of Christ Himself.
We are called to *agape*—to love God above all else and others as Christ loves us. This kind of love is not easy. It requires sacrifice, patience, and often a willingness to lay down our desires for the sake of others.
But here is the grace: Jesus meets Peter where he is. He accepts Peter's phileo but invites him into agape. In the same way, God meets us where we are. Even if our love is imperfect, God works in us to grow our love into the fullness of agape. We cannot reach this level alone, but we are empowered to love like Christ through the Holy Spirit.
** Challenge: ** Let your love grow into agape. It is not enough to love when it's easy or convenient. Love when it costs something. Love when it means forgiving the unforgivable. Love as Christ loved you, without reservation, without condition.
#### Closing:
Each form of love—*eros*, *phileo*, and *agape*—reflects God's character. *Eros* within marriage reflects God's passionate pursuit of His people. *Phileo* builds the bonds of fellowship that sustain the body of Christ. And *agape*—the highest love—calls us to love as God loves, selflessly and sacrificially.
The world may compromise on love, distorting its meaning and lowering its value. But as followers of Christ, we are called to a higher standard—a love that doesn't conform to the world but transforms it. Let your love be holy, passionate, and without compromise, reflecting the fullness of God's love in every aspect of your life.
**Prayer:**
Father, we thank You for the gift of love in all its forms. Help us to honor *eros* within marriage, to cultivate *phileo* among our brothers and sisters, and to grow into the fullness of *agape*. Let our love reflect Your heart so the world might know the depth of Your grace and truth through us. In Jesus' name, Amen.



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