Have you ever found yourself feeling irritated by your spouse? Perhaps they leave their clothes lying around or forget to do something you asked of them. It's easy to brush these irritations aside or even to lash out at our spouse in a moment of frustration. But as Christians, we are called to respond Biblically to all situations, including those that involve an "irritating" spouse.
The Scriptures guide us on how to respond to difficult people, including our spouses. In Romans 12:10-18, we are reminded to love one another with genuine affection, and to bless those who persecute us. I Corinthians 10:13 assures us that God will not let us be tempted beyond our ability and will provide a way out. And in II Corinthians 3:4-5, we are reminded that our competence comes from God, not ourselves.
But perhaps the most important thing to remember is that irritation in ourselves is a signal that we need to change. II Timothy 2:23-26 reminds us to avoid foolish and ignorant controversies and to lead with gentleness and patience. Our heart is revealed by how we respond, and as Christians, we must strive to respond with love and kindness.
It's also important to remember that our peace and joy in the Lord are not dependent on our spouse's actions or attitudes. In Psalm 119:165, it is written that those who love God's law have great peace, and nothing can make them stumble. Isaiah 26:3 tells us that God will keep in perfect harmony those whose minds are steadfast because they trust in Him. And in John 14:27, Jesus promises us His peace, which is not like the peace the world gives.
Demanding situations and difficult people, therefore, allow us to grow in Christ. As Romans 5:3-5 reminds us, suffering produces endurance, which in turn produces character and, finally, hope. James 1:2-4 tells us to consider it pure joy whenever we face trials because they produce perseverance, which leads to maturity and completeness.
So, let us not be discouraged by an "irritating" spouse. Instead, let us turn to the Scriptures for guidance on responding Biblically with love, kindness, and patience. And let our response be a witness to those around us, as we manifest God's glory amid challenging situations.
May God bless and keep you always. Amen.